How to help kids declutter before the holidays

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Source: Zee Siman; NAPO Blog

Every November, something shifts. The calendar fills, the closets fill, and suddenly every flat surface starts collecting things that weren’t there a week ago. The art projects, the party invitations, the early gifts from grandparents who “just couldn’t wait.” It’s festive, but it’s also a lot.

That’s why every year, before December officially begins, our family does what I call the Pre-Holiday Purge. It’s our way of clearing a little space for the good things that are about to come in.

No stress. No “big cleanup weekend.” Just a calm reset before the season starts. And it’s secretly one of the best times of year to teach kids something most adults are still learning: how to let go.

Why Decluttering Matters More Than We Think

We teach kids how to brush their teeth, tie their shoes, say thank you—but not how to manage their stuff. And yet, “stuff management” might be one of the most useful life skills there is. Kids who learn to sort, choose, and edit grow up with stronger decision-making and planning skills. Research even shows it helps with emotional regulation. So, this isn’t just about making room for more gifts. It’s about helping our kids understand that their belongings should support their life, not take it over.

Begin with a Story, Not a Lecture

If you’ve ever announced, “We’re cleaning out your toys today,” you already know how that goes. 

Instead, start with a story. In our house, I’ll say, “Remember when you used to love this?” or “Let’s look through what you’ve outgrown.” Then we talk about how everything in the house tells part of our family’s story, and how some chapters end so new ones can begin. It’s not a lesson about clutter. It’s a reminder that growth always makes space.

Treat Decluttering Like a Daily Skill

Decluttering isn’t a once-a-year event. It’s something we practice a little at a time. You can model it out loud in small, everyday ways.

• “I didn’t use this mug much this year. Maybe it’s time to pass it on.”

• “We have three of these chargers, and only one works. Let’s keep the good one.”

Kids notice. They start to see that making decisions about stuff is normal, not emotional, not dramatic, just part of life. If your child hesitates, use a “Maybe Box.” Put items they’re unsure about inside, label it with the date, and revisit it later. Most of the time, the attachment fades naturally.

Model Your Choices Out Loud

Decluttering with kids isn’t about perfection. It’s about permission and showing them that it’s okay to make decisions and change their mind later. When you’re sorting through things, let them hear your thought process.

• “This puzzle is missing pieces, so I’ll recycle it.”

• “These cords don’t fit anything we own.”

It’s a small thing, but it helps them connect the dots between clutter and clarity. They learn that you’re not just cleaning; you’re choosing how to live.

Respect Their Attachments (Even the Random Ones)

Every child has their “thing.” Seashells. Rocks. Tiny rubber ducks. You don’t have to fight it. You just need limits. Give them a container, like one jar, one box, or one shelf for their special items. When it’s full, it’s time to decide what stays. Limits aren’t rules put in place by parents. They’re boundaries that protect what matters most.

Connect It to Beautiful Living

This part is where it all comes together. Decluttering sticks when kids understand the “why.” I link it to the 5 Principles of Beautiful Living, but in simple, kid-friendly ways:

1. Live Light: Less stuff means more room to play.

2. Love Your Home: We take care of our space, so it feels good to be in.

3. Connect Often: We make room for people, not piles.

4. Work to Live Well: We clean up fast so we can relax longer.

5. Thrive Daily: A tidy room helps your brain feel calm.

Once they understand that we’re not cleaning for the sake of cleaning, but we’re cleaning for calm, it starts to click.

Keep It Light

Decluttering doesn’t have to be serious. You can keep the mood playful. Turn on music. Take before-and-after photos. Drop off donations together and grab cocoa on the way home. Kids love to see progress, and the little rituals help make the habit stick. The goal isn’t a picture-perfect playroom. It’s a home that feels easy to live in.

Remember the Bigger Lesson

When we help our kids let go of what they no longer use or love, we are helping them make space for what matters next. They’re learning flexibility, gratitude, and readiness. And before the new gifts, the parties, and the glitter of December, that might be the most beautiful lesson of all: that calm starts with space.